Support After the Funeral
Support for the Family
When someone dies, friends rally around the family. The family
is often incredibly busy planning the funeral or services. Everyone
is calling, writing, offering sympathy. But after the chaos of the
funeral and other ceremonies and services, mourners must adjust to
life without the honoree. Two, three, six months later a surviving
spouse or child needs you.
If you are close to the family, call them. Invite him or her for
dinner. Include them in your social plans. They may not feel like
joining you at first, but they may when they're ready.
Your friend needs your support. As Letitia Baldrige, author of
New Manners for New Times: A Complete Guide to Etiquette,
points out, "Nothing is more difficult to accept nor more absolute
than death. It's the time when heart counts more than anything else
in this world. It's not the cost of the huge bouquet someone sent
to the funeral that matters to the grieving family; it's the warmth
of your words that counts and your promise to 'be around to help -
Remember to check our Heart2Soul Community to see if the family
has created a page for the honoree. There, you can also stay up to
date on service information or provide support by leaving a message
for the family or uploading photographs.