Food and drink can be an important part of our family and
identity. Did the deceased have any favorite foods? Does the
family gather around the table for special meals?
Think about the food and drinks to be served at the reception
and how they portray the deceased. It's not about how much you
spend but the choices you make.
Perhaps they were Italian and well known for her lasagna. What
better way to honor her than to serve her lasagna at the reception?
You could even share the recipe as a nice memento for guests to
take home. On the other hand, perhaps the deceased was known for
not cooking but loved Indian cuisine. You could choose Indian
cuisine for this final celebration.
Whatever you choose for the menu, consider these tips when
planning a reception.
- Estimate six bite-sized refreshments per person
- In order to calculate how many people you should prepare for,
estimate how many people you think will attend and then add half
that number just to be safe, particularly if the deceased was
- Do not serve alcohol without food
- Have three times the number of glasses as guests to avoid
- Unopened wine bottles can usually be returned to the liquor
store or you may be happy to have them available for drop-in
- If you are using a caterer, see if they can be flexible and
have a "plan B" for stretching refreshments if necessary without
holding you to a guarantee that is too high
- Guests are there to support you and won't expect a large
- Most caterers come prepared with good carry-out containers and
are happy to pack up leftovers for the freezer
- If the reception will be held at an outside venue, ask if there
are additional costs, such as corkage fees. Also find out whether
you will be allowed to take leftover food or alcohol home. This
could be convenient as you will most likely still have family and
friends around and lots to do